Cheating can be devastating for partners. Though many people try to keep it a secret, still there are many ways to find out this through some tell-tale signs.

1. Your partner seems bored. Bored with you, with a job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.
2. There is considerably less intimacy or connection in your relationship.
3. Your sex life is practically non-existent.
4. Or, there are lots of new things introduced into sex that were never before.
5. Your spouse has a low self-esteem.
6. Your spouse doesn’t show any jealousy about you, no matter what you say.
7. You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about him or her self.
8. Your spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.
9. Your spouse is more negative.
10. Your spouse becomes more critical of you.
11. Your spouse seems to be picking fights more often.
12. You can’t get your spouse to communicate with you (stonewalling).
13. Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.
14. Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.
15. Your mate is working longer hours at work.
16. Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer or there is a sudden interest in appearance.
17. You notice charges on credit card statement that don’t make sense.
18. You are aware of different scents of cologne or aftershave lotion on your spouse’s clothes.
19. Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.
20. You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.
21. Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.
22. The words “I love you” are not spoken by your spouse any longer.
23. He/she doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.
24. You can’t even get your mate to fight with you.
25. You feel as if you are being avoided.
26. Your partner abandons religious faith.
27. Your spouse seems more secretive.
28. You discover lipstick smudges on a shirt.
29. You are not satisfied with your partner’s response when asked for cheating.