“No! You’re not fat! You’re beautiful!”
By saying this, you are suggesting that someone cannot be both plus-size and pretty.
Which is wrong. And if this person actually is overweight, you’re basically lying to them, adding to their confusion and disillusionment to what they see in the mirror. The truth is, people actually can be both fat and beautiful. The same goes with skinnier, shorter, or taller women and of any body type, race, ethnicity and sexuality.
According to a study in 2014, it was proven that most 10 year-old girls are more afraid of getting “fat” than they are of cancer, nuclear war, or losing their own parents.
42 percent of girls in first through third grade want to be thinner, 81 percent of 10-year-olds are afraid of being fat, and 51 percent of 9 and 10-year-old girls feel better about themselves if they are on a diet.From Victoria’s Secret fashion to Instagram models, Pinterest aesthetics, and the toxicity of social media, it’s obvious that the current beauty standard is not obesity.
To be fat is probably one of the worst things conceivable for many humans, particularly women, because that’s how we’re taught to perceive it.So when someone is criticizing their body, saying “Oh, I’m too fat” or “I hate my fat body”, the knee-jerk response is…
The people who say “fat is ugly”, “skinny is ugly”, “’fill in the blank’ is ugly”, are incorrect. No one gets to decide what consitutes attractiveness and unattractiveness for others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.