How to Use Humor to Diffuse Conflict
Before I criticize someone, I walk miles in their moccasins. That way, whenever they get mad, they’re miles away and barefoot.
Humor used the right way on the right time can be just what you must diffuse a conflict at your workplace. The credit industry abounds with great opportunities to disarm disbelief. Diffusing a tense problem can help all parties involved find a mutually satisfying solution more quickly. The secret is to put water, certainly not fuel on the fire. Some sort of compassionate and benevolent intent go a long way to choosing the right statement to make. The secret of most good communicators is to choose a playful reply in the face of challenge — not really personal put down, but a reply that pokes fun on the situation.
Read the limited stories below from other do the job environments, and then feel free to send your story (or 1 you heard).
I client of mine seemed to be working at a major store in the paint department. As soon as customers have complaints, color is the last place you wish to be, since they usually discover a difficulty after they have already spread the idea on their wall. And particular colors are not accepted intended for return. One customer acquired so upset at the person that he said, “You may take this paint and leave it up your ass!” The man responded, “I’m i am sorry sir, you’re the third particular person to say that today thus I’m all full of color, but I’ll be open for further tomorrow.” The customer ridiculed and they were able to move on. (contributed by Stevie Ray)
This email was from our office manager who was caring for my business while I seemed to be on vacation:
Dear Elaine – I am sorry for the delay in returning your email. I had to go with the police when they apprehended the man in the ski mask trying to steal your bank deposit. My broken arm should be healed within six weeks. Also, my son got his cute little hands on one of those permanent markers when I left him in the waiting room. The place kind of needed a paint job, though – don’t you think? You’ll be pleased to know that we decided on hot pink in your absence. The painters will be done later today and it only cost $2000 because they are high school students. See you soon, Jeannette. P.S. There was no armed robbery, or broken arm or hot pink paint job. But, I did forget to do the bank deposit and need Friday off again….so I just wanted to make sure you kept it all in perspective. (contributed by Elaine Robinson)
Our manager was pushing the IT technician to fix a huge computer breakdown in under half a day. The technician was getting frustrated at the unreasonable request, but rather than push back with resistance, he said, “Actually, I only need two hours. The other two I’ll be using to cure world hunger.” They both laughed and the manager mellowed out. (contributed by Linda Johnson)
A client kept returning our budget proposal saying it needed to be smaller. No matter how much trimming we did, the client kept pushing for “Smaller, smaller!” I finally took the proposal to a copier and had it reduced to two inches in size. I sent it to the client and said, “This is about as small as I can make it. Tell me what you think.” He called me saying it got a huge laugh in his office and that he would now accept the proposal as soon as he could find his magnifying glass. (contributed by Frank Freedman)
Super Size Urn
A funeral director was helping a grieving widow choose an urn for her husband’s ashes. Her husband was a man who enjoyed the finer things in life; he had a hearty build; a rotund, Santarapidlike exterior. The funeral director was trying to find the diplomatic way to tell her that the urn size should be extrarapidlarge. When she inquired as to the selection available, he simply said small, medium, large and Super Size. She looked up and there was a brief pause. Not knowing what to do, he said….”and today Super Size is only fifty cents more”. She replied somberly, “Wilbur always went for Super Size.” There was another pause – and then they both laughed. She later on told him that little encounter really helped her release the stress of the situation. (contributed by Vanessa Miller)
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