Unrealistic Disney fairy tales and embrace the deeper romance of choice. No one is going to change for you because you are such a good person. No one is going to show up and save the day. No one has a magic potion that will cure your loneliness.
Media representations of love create impossible expectations. They present a vision of what love is “supposed” to look like. It is supposed to be chivalrous, romantic, and passionate. The strong and suitable man is supposed to save damsels in distress. A white horse is supposed to make for a happily-ever-after, storybook ending. Unfortunately, this type of love exists only there: a storybook. When we spend our entire lives waiting for a perfect man, we miss out on a man with the greatest component of all: imperfection.
It’s very easy to tell who is good and who is bad in the world. If you’re a good person then you are beautiful. If you are a bad person you are old, ugly, fat or all of the above. Let’s test this theory with Disney characters. Disney princesses are all beautiful, the princes are handsome and all the people we’re supposed to like are generally nice to look at. But the baddies… Ursula is old, ugly and fat, Cruella de Vil is old and ugly, Jafar is ugly… prominent eyebrows seem to be a bit of an ongoing theme with the bad guys, so probably don’t trust anyone who hasn’t been on a plucking spree. Yep, attractiveness is synonymous with being a good person, and we can extend this rule to animals too… the darker animals with pointer features and crazy eyes are the evil ones – you mustn’t dance with them.
It doesn’t matter who your are or what your situation is, if you’re a good person then you will get a happy ending. The best thing of all is that you don’t even have to do anything to get this happy ever after, it will just fall into your lap. Cinderella was slaving away her days when a fairy-godmother appeared out of nowhere to fix her problems and ultimately bag her a prince because good things just come to those who wait. While it’s probably best to do nothing and just wait for life to hand you happiness, if you want to speed up the process of finding a man just have a friend lock you in a tower or put you in some kind of mortal danger… that sounds like a lot of work though and as previously mentioned, why work hard to achieve something when you can sit back and just wait for it all to happen? If you get really desperate though, you can always make a deal with the devil and give up something silly that you don’t need (like your voice) in exchange for over-all body perfection because that will bag you a prince without question – men would much rather have a perfect looking woman who cannot talk than a half-fish freak who constantly sings songs about her hoarding.
Disney may have given us unrealistic expectations about life, but movies like Aladdin, Cinderella, Snow White and Hercules were a huge part our childhoods and we wouldn’t change a thing.